Live in the Difference

Live in the Difference

John Westerhoff

Don't try to make a difference--be willing to live in the difference God has made and continues to make.

(via inward/outward)

The Radical Trust of Rest

Rest ... it is so important.

What hinders you from rest?

I think if we are honest it is often because we don't trust God.

I mentioned to someone the other day that I reckon one of our key issues is that we don't accept our finiteness.

How differently would be live if we trusted God and accepted our finiteness?  As I've grown in these qualities, rest comes so much more easily.

With this in mind, I was encouraged by Christine Sine's post that spoke of a book she had been reading that spoke of "the radical trust of rest".

Texting or phone calls?

What are your preferred methods of communication?  There are so many options these days.  I've had many conversations about this topic.  Sometimes, these have been sensitive as a friend and I work out how we use various communication tools differently and share with one another what it might mean to love each other well and as we work to understand each other.  Often these have been profitable and beneficial to the relationship.  Do you think about how you communicate, what you are trying to communicate and the best tool for that and what the person/people you are communicating with would prefer?  Do you text, phone (on mobile or home number?), Facebook message, email, snail mail or speak face-to-face?  Do you communicate with those around you your preferences?

I reckon much fruit comes from us thinking these issues through and this is an interesting post around the topic.

Grief - boring for the uninitiated

Clare Bowditch has written the words that speak my feelings and thoughts strongly - yet again.

She sings: The thing about grief is that it gets kinda boring for the people who don't yet know.

Indeed!

The question is the answer

"The question is the answer" is a phrase those who know me well are probably used to me saying.  Another favourite saying of mine is "live into the questions".  One wouldn't be surprised then to find that I loved the poem below as I read it on this blog:

Never kill a question;
it is a fragile thing.
A good question deserves to live.
One doesn’t so much answer it as converse with it,
Or, better yet, one lives with it.
Great questions are the permanent
and blessed guests of the mind.
But the greatest questions of all are those which build bridges to the heart,
addressing the whole person.
No answer should be designed to kill the question.
When one is too dogmatic or too sure,
one shows disrespect for truth and the question that points toward it.
Beyond my answer there is always more,
more light waiting to break in,
and waves of inexhaustible meaning
ready to break against wisdom’s widening shore.
Wherever there is a question, LET IT LIVE!

Gerhard Frost, from “Bless My Growing”

Publishers represented at Children, Youth and a New Kind of Christianity Conference

One of the reasons that I went to America recently was to attend the Children, Youth and a New Kind of Christianity Conference in Washington, DC.  I will write more on this soon.  However, in response to a readers' question, Brian McLaren has done a list of the publishers who were at this conference and who he hopes might be people who write useful resources for those interested in this topic over the coming years.  You might like to stay tuned to what these publishers produce!

Kindle Highlights to Evernote

Some of the readers of this blog are users of Evernote.  Some are also Kindle users.  I'm loving my fairly new iPad and being able to read ebooks.  It has made such a difference to my reading.

Here is a post regarding getting your Kindle highlights into Evernote.  I'm still yet to try it - but thought that some readers might be interested in it.

Commissioning Prayer

I was struck by the words of this Commissioning Prayer that was on this blog.

Co:missioning prayer

In the name of the divine and mysterious Trinity,

You have called us into being through love,

You have joined us to one another in love,

You have placed us in your world to love.

Grant each one of us the strength,

To carry your blessing from this place to the next.

May we be at home in any land and in any place in between,

for all the cosmos is yours.

May we, with our hopes set on shalom in the world,

live also as aliens in all lands.

May the rhythms of your creation,

be the pulse that sustains our very life.

May the lamp of your word guide our feet,

on the unsure paths of each day.

May your breathing be the wind that leads us,

across strange new oceans.

Our lives are but a flicker of a flame,

But we are kindled from your divine Spirit.

You have created us,

humble missionaries, holy wanderers,

Specs of dust and divine-image bearers.

Shadows of your creativity,

and crucibles of the spark of innovation.

We are constantly restless until we rest in you.

Grant each one of us and our community,

a deeper fullness of being and spirit,

May our faces be fuller in glory and joy,

now bearing new shape,

as we transform and supplement one another.

May that transformation bring peace, joy and love,

in the world in which you have placed us.

In the name of the Spirit who moves across the surface of the waters,

and in each beat of the human heart,

In the name of Jesus, the God-Man,

who died, rose and lives on for us,

In the name of the Creator and re-Creator,

the source of all beauty, freedom and grace.

Amen

Being a participant in life

I love observing.  There are many things that I have learnt as life skills from having deaf parents, many that have taken years to understand.  The skill of observation is one of them.  As a deaf person, observation is a crucial life skill.  It is a key way that you grasp what is happening in the world around you and having keen observational skills contributes towards the many things that you do not know because you do not hear them.  Often observation is also all that you can do, because to really participate is not made possible for you as a deaf person because the people involved will not make the space necessary nor do the actions involved for you to fully participate.

This is the world I grew up in and, despite not being deaf, this is how I learnt to function.  I did not need this life skill in the way a deaf person does but I still learnt the skill - it's bread and butter to my parents, how could I not learn it?!

I've thought about this a fair bit over the years, especially when a professional supervisor I had during my Clinical Pastoral Education raised my tendency to observe rather than participate.  I now recognise the strengths that this skill brings, and I am aware of how it can hold me back from fully embracing life, from fully participating in the ways that I can, from contributing the many things that I have to contribute.  It can be a method of not choosing vulnerability, of self-protection.  It can also be a path of contentment, of enjoying observing others, of knowing a positive sense of life in that.  Often it also means that I have information that feeds in a life-enhancing way into a project that I'm involved in.  Over time I'm learning to accept all of these as part of the picture and to embrace the parts that are life-giving and to choose to not hide and give power to the ways in which it's self-protective and using a life skill that is unnecessary for me as a hearing person.

With this background, I was fascinated by this post by Alison Sampson.  Some friends will be aware that I love watching board games.  Some of this is about the positive sense of enjoyment I gain from observing, but I wonder how much has been about self-protection.  How much has been not wanting to risk, not wanting to throw myself into life?  Certainly this has shifted and I reflect that this has been different over recent years but it has me pondering.

Reflecting on this topic also has me pondering the connection this all has to a conversation I had with another friend recently who was sharing her view with me that people are always better for our presence.  I wasn't convinced.  The conversation was coming from a different place, but I wonder on the connection with this line of thinking.  Do I hold back because I do not believe that my contribution is valuable enough?  Do I not believe that people will be better off because of my participation and contribution?

Hunger Games

During my recent holidays, I read through the 3 books in the Hunger Games series.  It's been a while since I was grabbed by a novel series.  They were a great read.  I'm still pondering many of the themes in the books and wondering what it says about our world that means they have been picked up with such interest.  I look forward to watching the movie when it comes out on DVD.  Steve Taylor has done an interesting review of the movie which raises many of the themes within this story.

Life Springing Forth from a Winter Landscape

A friend recently wrote these precious words:

A bleak, winter landscape, 
trees stripped bare, 
shivering, leafless, naked, vulnerable. 


Cold wind whips around my heart. 
Trees bare, but for little stubs, 
which one day will sprout unexpectedly, 
lush, green, new growth. 


Birds will sing, 
blossoms will open, 
sun will shine - warm and steady as it softens and warms the earth, 
readying it for its new Life to spring forth.

The consumerist experience of tourism

As I've been enjoying the delights and sights of New York and other spots, I've been pondering what I think about the consumerist nature of such an experience. While I'm in it, I've been aiming to experience it and enjoy it for all it's worth- the amazing beauty of Niagara Falls, the breath-taking views from the Empire State Building, the creativity expressed by the likes of
Monet. They are all great things. But it feels highly consumerist - in essence and form. I've wrestled with what I think about this reaction because I think some of it is highly personal that gets put onto these thoughts around consumerism. But I do think some of my thoughts are genuinely about the consumerist nature of tourism and feeling very questionable about it. So much of it crosses against so many of the choices about how I want to live and this experience is reinforcing those decisions and causing me to further question the huge number of ways that I buy into consumerism in my everyday lifestyle. I feel some considerable lifestyle choices coming up ...

No real answers just living into my experience and aiming to process it as I live today.

One thing I'm surer of than ever - I want to live in such a way as I'm able to be truly present in each moment and savor the experience or person that I am present with. For me, that means choices to slow down.

As a book I have at home says -
When I loved myself enough I learnt to slow down- way down.
That's my experience too and it's good to be reminded of that by a few weeks that is different to that.

Where to start?

I'm sitting in New York Public Library wondering where to start writing about the last few weeks. There has been so much amazing stuff, many precious sacred moments, so many places seen and experienced, many thoughts had and a decent amount of angst in the mix too.

So I will start with this moment. What a luxury to be sitting in this quiet room in the midst of busy New York. I've been struck by the amount of public space in the cities I've been to in the US and Canada and the need for them. I've enjoyed the green spaces on the National Mall in DC and Central Park in New York, amongst many others. Space in the midst of life. Crucial.

And that is something that I really haven't had on this trip - space. And more than ever I'm aware of how crucial it is to me; how much my functioning well and capacity depends on it. It's been a lifelong journey of understanding this huge need of mine.
And the journey continues.

I've experienced so much yet have not included many of the things that help me process and feel my experiences before moving on to the next thing. This means that I've not had the capacity to fully engage with the next experience. This is a way I've chosen not to live but I've found myself choosing it this holiday and paying the consequences of it. Thankfully these days I'm very aware of what it takes to reset the button and can go there quickly but it's been a very powerful reminder of how easy it is to return to old patterns of living.

None of that takes away from the beauty and powerfulness of what has been experienced - it's just that they haven't been lived as well as they might have been.

And so today I'm thankful for this place of peace and quiet.

Conflicted

Do you feel conflicted with yourself?  I do much of the time!

Seth Godin discusses this conflict and suggests that we need to get better at self-marketing!

5 Types of Work that Fill Your Day

This is a good post on the different types of work that fill your day.

1. Reactionary work
2. Planning work
3. Procedural work
4. Insecurity work
5. Problem-solving work

(Thanks to Matt at What's Best Next for the link)

Perhaps I am stronger than I think

Perhaps I am stronger than I think.
Perhaps I am even afraid of my strength, and turn it against myself, thus making myself weak.
Making myself secure. Making myself guilty.
Perhaps I am most afraid of the strength of God in me.
Perhaps I would rather be guilty and weak in myself,
than strong in Him whom I cannot understand. 

- Thomas Merton (from Thomas Merton: A Book of Hours)

Thanks to Rachel Held Evans whose blog I read this on.

Why we will fail unless ...

I love TED talks.

This is a great TED talk about why we will fail.

Do you think about failure? About what keeps you from the things you most desire?  From what stops you being the person you most desire to be?

The TED talk speaks about why you will fail to have a great career, but the content could be applied to any area of life and passion.  There is some controversial material in there ... but I think helpful to get us thinking.

This week, in the midst of a busy week, I've been committed to ensuring I face some things I've procrastinated about and I've faced some other difficult conversations too.  It was worth it.

We will fail unless ....

Culture Shock

I've lived in Perth for over a year now.  I love it - it's a great place to be.

Over the last few weeks though I've become aware of some things that have shocked me about Perth.  On reflection about what I know about culture shock and transitions, I shouldn't be surprised.  I'm in the zone where I think I know the place and the culture and then all of a sudden something jumps out and surprises me, disorientates me and makes me aware of not being as understanding of the culture of the place I'm in as I thought.  Typical of transitions, yet disorientating at the same time.

Will we be ourselves?

One of the great books I'm reading at the moment is Wikichurch by Steve Murrell.  Some comments that he makes in there, combined with reading this blog post today, have me pondering how often we try and lead or live like someone else rather than being the person that God has called us to be and leading in ways that are true to how we are wired and also to what is needed in our context in this season.

I wonder what it means for you to be deeply true to who God is calling you to be and what is needed in the context that you find yourself in this season of life?

Joining Jesus on the cross

As I continue to sit in the midst of the story of these few days, I was encouraged by another blog post which gives another perspective on the cross.

Again simple but profound.

He quotes Dallas Willard: Jesus didn’t go to the cross so we wouldn’t have to. He went to the cross so we could join him there.
And then briefly explores that.


Where am I being invited to die ... so that new life might come?
Where are you being invited to die ... so that new life might come?
Where are we as a church, as a society being invited to die ... so that new life might come?