tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5874368.post4692994508436653997..comments2023-09-15T16:13:49.821+08:00Comments on flyinginbluesky: Mother's DayBarb Totterdellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10818053024898942350noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5874368.post-5115849192941418332008-05-13T20:34:00.000+08:002008-05-13T20:34:00.000+08:00Thanks Kate ... I was also conscious of others aro...Thanks Kate ... I was also conscious of others around - I was particularly conscious of the several people there and not whose mothers are not at their most healthiest and the wierdness that such a day must be for them.Barb Totterdellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10818053024898942350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5874368.post-74049423513368790632008-05-13T18:52:00.000+08:002008-05-13T18:52:00.000+08:00Barb, I'm so glad you wrote this - being real is a...Barb, I'm so glad you wrote this - being real is a big part(I hope) of what Solace is all about. I am so sorry for my own lack of acknowledgment of how you must have been feeling, and thank you so much for the grace and forebearence you have shown for our human-ness. It's a reminder that life is about so much more than I have in my forefront. For me it was not anything to do with thinking that you would be OK, or actually thinking anything, just plain dumb old lack of thought. I'm feeling so sorry for that, and that you had to do process what the day was to you on your own in so many ways. <BR/>I was looking around on Sunday with other eyes - seeing other people for whom Mother's Day is also painful, particularly the many women who I was staying with who were doing the mother thing on their own, without support from a partner. <BR/>All this is a reminder for me not to take things for granted.<BR/>Wish I could turn back the clock and do that one better.<BR/>- Kate WAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5874368.post-71442673091579035282008-05-13T13:55:00.000+08:002008-05-13T13:55:00.000+08:00Thanks Anj ... yeah it's funny hey - you are so ri...Thanks Anj ... yeah it's funny hey - you are so right being "okay" is not the same as knowing people care ... In the way he does, the fact that people hadn't shown care actually took me to God in a way that I wouldn't have gone if they had and for that I'm thankful but all the same I'm sad by the lack of showing of care.<BR/><BR/>I appreciate your thoughts - and your comment - thanks; you are so in my thoughts these weeks.Barb Totterdellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10818053024898942350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5874368.post-59999305289614175182008-05-12T22:57:00.000+08:002008-05-12T22:57:00.000+08:00I thought of you yesterday. I wish I would have se...I thought of you yesterday. I wish I would have sent you an e-mail. I probably made the assumption you would be 'okay'. Of course you would be, but how irrelevant to caring. I am so glad you wrote this, and I pray it leads to good discussion and not shame on anyone's part. I do love how you choose to live in the Light.anjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10907362042684864253noreply@blogger.com